Focus: The gaps, hidden themes, and deeper motivations.

• Explore: In this session ask simply, "What's this all about, really?"The idea that some parts of our story remain unexplored or unspoken. Its easy to assume this guiding question -- what have you not been telling -- emerges from an intrusive curiosity about the bottom left quadrant of the Johari widows, that part of us which remains unseen by the public. This is that private, personal and even at times secret and hidden self. That is not exactly our curiosity in this session.

-- Instead, we think it goes deeper. And deeper is not what an imperious and nosey public wants to know about your unspoken self. But, what you know. You are the only one who knows how you have been making meaning from all you have encountered, experienced and embraced. Its literally made you who you are. We certainly have our own experience with you, and maybe even "people like you."

-- Many of us have been characters in the same universalized absurd comedic horror workplace drama, like those found on such shows as The Office, Severance or almost ANY scene the features Darth Vader choking out smug junior authoritarians. We can empathize with others who have to make sense out of the role work plays as the backdrop of many of our stories.

-- Our relationship to work, or what it may represent, has a fundamentally controlling influence on our ability to experience congruence. SO, help us with the central plotline of your story, not necessarily a chronological play-byplay, but basic plot, or perhaps a story it most reminds you of. Which story comes closest to that experience of congruence you long for, have been working toward? Whats the backstory, the "Once Upon a Time?"

• Exercise: Write the “deleted scenes” of your story—the moments that shaped you but don’t make it into your usual edited narrative.

• Discussion: What’s missing from your public story? What fears or truths keep you from telling it as it is? Instead, the invitation here is more cumulative, integrating, honoring of those peices that, for some reason or another, may not fit very well together, may make you seem odd to other, may be the best parts of you that know one knows, has yet experienced or could even dream that you dream of becoming. THAT's the gap to us, what may be the hidden themes to us, which may be motivations we had never considered to explain what we, the public, have assumed to be the whole story. Seldom does anyone get the whole story, even ourselves, says the Johari wisdom. So, what if its the bottom right hand quadrant that beckons most deeply that we honor what may be emerging, which may be pulsating as unspoken truths and untapped energies? What if the "Director's Cut" is what the storyteller finally gets to take to the public? What if the "Interview After the Scene" or the "Inside the Actors Studio" moment is what many long to hear, to explain why they remain interested in everything you play in?

• Takeaway: Owning your full story—flaws, struggles, and all—offers an arresting experience to people who wander into and thru the theater of your unfolding life..